I have, for a long time, considered myself a nice guy.
Please, relax, let me explain.
What people conceive as a nice guy --hell, what Wikipedia conceives as a nice guy-- is not what I strive to be.
So, for this first post, I would like to distinguish my personal definition from the ones that are sometimes assumed and accepted.
On Wikipedia, a nice guy is defined as "a term in the general public discourse and in popular culture describing an adult or teenage male with friendly yet unassertive personality traits in the context of a relationship with a woman." I get where this stereotype comes from. And I think it is fair to say that, although this was found on Wikipedia, there is some validity to the thought that this interpretation is generally accepted. However, it also is unfortunate that being a 'nice guy' immediately puts you in an 'unassertive box'. This Wikipedia article continues defining a nice guy, saying that a "typical nice guy believes in putting the needs of others before his own, avoids confrontations, does favors, gives emotional support, tries to get out of trouble, and generally acts nicely towards women." This further explanation
Second, and the definition that bothers me the most, is the stereotyping and massive generalization by the feminist community. I consider myself to be a moderate feminist. However, there are certain beliefs that are clearly not based in generalities, rather than logical evidence. The one that frustrates me the most is 'nice guy syndrome'. Right off the bat, the negative feeling associated with the word 'syndrome' begins to seep in. Then, when you read further, it gets worse, fast. Rather than spell it out in my own words, just look (from Geek Feminism Wiki):